That Motive

Today I thought I'd give some free relationship advice with hopes it doesn't fall on false ears: If the person in your relationship keeps saying "You'll do it if you love me." as a means to stop being friends with a certain someone - he/she is trying to control you. This isn't love and you should get out of the relationship. Anyone who feels the need to be dominat in a relationship most likely doesn't consider you as an equal and a selfish lover.

People who are a selfish lover actually love themselves and treat their partner more or less as a trophy than a human being. Sadly most people are blinded by love not to notice this fact and/or ignore it completely. Manipulating and controlling a person with love is wrong. The people who do notice this such as friends and family should know it's next to impossible to intervene with this person because the partner used fear tactics and labels.

Real lovers don't control their partner for whatever reason, period. Lovers embrace friendship with kindness, respect and warmth. Good relationships of any sort are built on faith and trust with people that you care about. Lasting relationships are based on respect, trust and being kind to those around you.