Possessive Hearts Are Toxic Ones

For those who read this blog from time to time should know upon occasion I will write some relationship advice. Recently I've been thinking about this one relationship that REALLY made me think. Another lifetime ago, I used to be friends with girl who used to date men I'd swear never met before but got jealous of whenever I was mentioned. Why?

I'm the nice and harmless guy, nothing more. Guys who are jealous of me are in fact possessive. Truthfully and honestly nice guys like myself don't have an agenda to steal anyone's girlfriend. Paranoia and thoughts of fear stir up in their head that they can't and/or don't know how to keep the girl in relationship if there's another guy being mentioned.

Sadly, it's also sign of a possessiveness and a very toxic relationship that some people don't notice right away. The person in your relationship isn't a 'trophy' but instead a human being and should be treated as one. My advice? Get out of a relationship the second he/she claims that you belong to them.

You are not anyone's property but your own. For the love of God, I don't know why most girls are blinded and/or tolerate this type of behavior. Guys shouldn't treat girls as if they're pimps and vice versa. A real man treats a lover with respect and constantly reminds them of how much their love means to them in their relationship.

There are ways to disarm 'the other guy' that she mentions without feeling jealous. You are just being reminded that you need to make that significant other feel special. A damn fool takes a relationship for granted. Remember there's a lot of other guys sitting in the sidelines waiting for their turn.

But not me. I'm the one that's going to prove it when my time comes to be in a relationship. Over the years I've taken so many 'mental notes', to the point I'd like to think I have become somewhat of an expert on the subject. I may not know much on a lot of stuff but I do know next person I date will most likely be my lover for life. Nonetheless I hope all of my female friends hope that they will find happiness with someone that loves them back.